Monday, July 26, 2010

Damage (1992)- R

People usually think of passion as an emotion. Sex researchers however are finding that certain kinds of passion are driven by a biochemical cocktail similar to opium. When this cocktail floods the system it produces both pleasure and uncharacteristic irrational obsessive behavior. A person under this spell often cannot sleep, eat or get the other person out of his minds. We call this falling in love, but actually it is falling out of reason and into passion. It’s wonderful! However, thank god it does not last because this condition can cause damage.

The characters played by Jeremy Irons and Juliette Binoche in the movie Damage are intoxicated by passion. They can barely speak to each other and cannot take their eyes off each other. Their passion cannot be quenched until their cloths are pulled off and their bodies joined in scenes of steamy eroticism. They then try to talk and try to make logic of their dangerous passion that could destroy their families. However, the passion returns. Their bodies are again flooded with endorphins that provide great pleasure but in the end do great damage.

How can very smart people throw their careers and families away by passion? What exactly were Bill Clinton and Eliot Spitzer thinking? See the movie Damage to understand the answer to this question. This is a film with very good acting and a strong, erotic story. The story is both sexually arousing and frightening. We are all a biochemical cocktail away from high passion and possible damage.

Tuesday, July 13, 2010

Films Recommended for Viewing and Reviewed on this Site- By Subject

Coming of Age: These films deal with adolescents and young people’s early or first sexual experience, or young people’s experimentation with sex. The stories exemplify positive and negative sex education. Suggested use: parents/adolescents adjusting to change, college sex education classes, challenges for sexual discussions, setting the mood for eroticism
Kissing on the Mouth (2005)- UR
YPF (2007)- UR
Shortbus (2006)- UR
Private Lesions (1981)- R
Y Tu Mama Tambien (2001) – UR “And Your Mama Too”
Pretty Baby (1978)-R
The Man in the Moon (1991)- PG13

Cross Generation Sex: These films deal with sexual relations between an adult and younger person. Some of these films deal with criminal child abuse. The stories, sometimes erotic and often painful, illustrate imbalance of power. Suggested use: sexual abuse, restoring partner intimacy, sexual obsession.
The Lover (1992) – R
Notes on a Scandal (2006)- R
The Reader (2008)- R
The Woodsman (2004)- R
Malena (2000)-R

Steamy Romance: These films deal with loving and erotic relationship. The films often include nudity and erotic stories. Suggested use: restoring partner intimacy, setting the mood for eroticism.
Sea of Love (1989)- R
Dangerous Liaisons (1988)- R
Body Heat (1981) – R
Lady Chatterley (2006)- NR
Better Than Sex (2002)- R
Seventh Sense (1999)- NR
Kama Sutra: A Tale of Love (1997)- R
Red Shoe Diary: The Movie: Special Edition (1992)- R
Lady Chatterley's Lover (1981)- R
Before Sunrise -R (1995) and Before Sunset -R (2004)
Emmanuelle (1974)-NR
Sound of the Sea- (2001)-R


Steamy Drama: These films deal with life situation or love relationships with conflict and tension. The films often include explicit sexuality and eroticism. However, the films also include human drama that is provoked by the sexuality. Suggested use: restoring partner intimacy, setting the mood for eroticism, demonstrating conflict, Understanding the complexity of sexuality, sexual healing
Damage (1992)- R
Basic Instincts (1992)- R
Lake Consequence (1993) –R
En La Cama (2005)- NR
Something About Sex (1998)- R
Secret Things (2002)- NR
Sex and Lucia (2002)- R
Confusions of An Unmarried Couple (2006) –UR
Lie With Me (2005)- NR
Brown Bunny (2004) UR
The Door in the Floor (2004) R
Anatomy of Hell (2004) – UR
9 Songs (2004)-NR
The Piano (1993)-R
Bride of the Wind (2001)-R
I, A Woman (1966)- UR
The Mother (2003) -R



Steamy Comedy: These films deal with life situation or love relationships with humor. The films often include explicit sexuality and eroticism. However, the films also include human comedy that is provoked by the sexuality. Suggested use: restoring partner intimacy, setting the mood for eroticism, demonstrating conflict. Understanding the complexity of sexuality, sexual healing
The Wedding Banquet (1993)- R
Sirens (1994)- R
Better than Chocolate (1999)- R

Romance: These films deal with love and relationship. Some of the films are comedies and others are drama. These are usually considered “chick flicks,” but men love them too. Suggested use: restoring partner intimacy, setting the mood for eroticism.
Notebook (2004)- PG123
It's Complicated (2009)- R
The Duchess (2008, PG-13)



Sex and Religion: These films deal with the crossing of religious traditions and sexuality. Frequently, this meeting is one of conflict and struggle. Suggested use: religious conflict, religious guilt, culture education, understanding sex in the context of religion.
Trembling Before G_D (2001)- UR
The Holy Land (2003)-R


Affairs and Infidelity: These films deal with affairs and sex with partners outside the relationship. Suggested use: dealing with affairs, setting the mood for eroticism, demonstrating conflict.
The End of an Affair (1999)- R
A Walk on the Moon (1999)-R
All The Ladies Do It (1992)- NR
Eyes Wide Shut (1999)- R

Sex Therapy and Documentary: These films deal with improving the quality of sex within a relationship, sexual healing and understanding of sexuality. They also record the history of sexuality. These films are frequently educational with instruction. Suggested use: improving the quality of erotic play, setting the mood for eroticism, understanding sexual problems, examples of sexual healing, history of sexual studies
Private Practices: The Story of a Sex Surrogate (1985)- NR
Cathouse: The Series (2005)- NR
Bliss (1997)-R
Kinsey (2004)- R
Loving Sex- Ultimate Massage (1998) – Educational
Friends & Lovers, Sex and Interviews with Real Couples (2005)- X
The Joys of Erotic Massage (Educational)
Xana & Dax: When Opposites Attract (2005)-X
Inside Deep Throat (2005)- NC-17

Polyamous and Swinging Lifestyle: These films deal with sexual relation with more than one person or couples, OR with couples agreeing that their partners can have sex with other people. All participants are knowledgeable and consenting. Suggested use: improving the quality of erotic play, setting the mood for eroticism, understanding variations of sexual relationships.
Kissing The Sky (1998)- R
"Swinging: From Fantasy to Reality" (2004)- Educational
Delta of Venus (1995) NC-17
One Night Stand (1997)- R
The Lifestyle: Swinging in America (2000)- Documentary
Head in the Clouds (2004)-R
My Best Friend's Wife (2001)-R
Henry & June (1990) NC-17

Sexual Fetish: These films deal with the sexual eroticism that people attach to certain object or certain behaviors. Suggested use: improving the quality of erotic play, setting the mood for eroticism, understanding sexual problems, examples of sexual healing, history of sexual studies
Frivolous Lola (1998)- NR
Romance- Director’s Cut (1999)- NR
Secretary (2002)-R
9 1/2 weeks (1986) - NR


Gay and Lesbian Sexuality: These films deal with sexual relations with the same sex. Some of the films are erotic and many are studies of coming out in a predominately heterosexual world. Suggested use: improving the quality of erotic play, setting the mood for eroticism, understanding sexual problems, examples of sexual healing, history of sexual studies, understanding alternative sexual lifestyles, talking to others about their sexual lifestyle
Brokeback Mountain (2005)- R
Girl’s Play (2004) NR
Watching You (2003)-NR
Tipping The Velvet (2002)- NR
Therese and Isabelle (1968)- UR
Amour de Famme: A Woman’s Love (2004)- R

Saturday, July 03, 2010

Inside Deep Throat (2005) NC-17

Reprinted from Netflix review

I have to say this was the funniest film I've seen in a long time. I found myself laughing out loud in the theater, something I rarely do, and I was not alone. Maybe it's just funny to see aging porn stars with tight jeans, belly hanging over the jeans, and a button down shirt that should be buttoned up. Linda Lovelace was dealt a bad deck of cards. But how she dealt with it was even worse. You feel sorry for her, but it almost seems like either she was manipulated or the manipulator. You be the judge. For those of you who dont' know the basic plot to "Deep Throat", here you go: Linda Lovelace could perform an act so extraordinary that they made a film out of it. Yes, they show it in "Inside Deep Throat", hence the NC-17 rating. I have to say, er, um, it's impressive, to say the least. The basic jist of "Deep Throat" is that she could not experience pleasure any normal way because her sexual organs lay in her throat. Ha ha, problem solved, every man's dream. What this documentary goes into is how it was the best grossing film of all time. DT was made for $25,000 and has grossed over $600 million. It caused quite the scandal when it was released, even the government tried to shut it down. It opened in Times Square before Times Square became the neon tourist trap it is now. DT, while riding on the heels of a sexual revolution, pushed back America's boundaries of tolerance. Far back. This is definitely a documentary at it's finest, but not for the faint of heart or those that can't stand the NC-17 rating.