Monday, May 14, 2007

Kinsey (2004)- R

Dr. Alfred Kinsey tells a New York Times reporter in the film "Kinsey" that we know less about the topic of human sexual pleasure than about the molting habits of the South American butterfly. Today, some 50 years later, much more is known about the physiology of human sexuality. However, I believe we have achieved only a slightly better understanding of erotic pleasure particularly within our most important lifelong relationships.

I am a trained marriage and family therapist and have been licensed in three states. In none of my training or continuing education for my licenses was I required to take a course in human sexuality, much less training in human erotic pleasure. My physician wife in 30 years of practicing medicine has not been required to take even one hour of continuing education in human sexuality to fulfill her board requirements in family medicine. Our daughter is in her second year of medical school and just last semester received her first training in sexuality. The lecture series was a sexual terminology course and was added because a medical student did not know what a patient meant when she reported her boyfriend liked to "eat her." It is because of these facts that the film Kinsey should be seen by all health professionals and all those interested in human sexuality.

Alfred Kinsey and his wife Clara McMillen were champions for research and education not just about human sexuality but human sexual pleasure. "Kinsey" is an important film because it documents our past (and current) taboo of gathering even the most basic information about sex and erotic pleasure. As health professionals we can categorize the 15 color shades of urine but squirm when asking a patient if they enjoy sex. Alfred Kinsey shined a spotlight on this hypocrisy in the late 1940's, a hypocrisy that is almost as true today.

I was first introduced to Dr. Alfred Kinsey at 16 when I was a junior in high school. I was hired as a hospital orderly at Rush-Presbyterian St. Luke's hospital and Medical School in Chicago to work the 5pm to midnight shift. My duties were to move patients from one floor to another and to move expired patients to the morgue. I had access to the medical school library and had much time on my hands. This free time was spent reading about sex in the medical school library and specifically reading Kinsey's and his "Sexual Behavior in the Human Male" and "Sexual Behavior in the Human Female." The literally hundreds of graphs and charts in these two volumes document Kinsey's chief finding. Sex and eroticism in humans is very pleasurable but also varies greatly from individual to individual. Before you say "daa," it is the fact of variety from individual to individual that our society has yet to accept.

Kinsey the movie is about Alfred Kinsey (played by Liam Neeson) and Clara McMillen (played by Laura Linney). It is about Kinsey the couple. The movie tracks their early bond in research biology through their interest in human sexuality, then sexual exploration with other partners and finally the bond of their love for each other. We are inspired by their passion to find "facts and accuracy" about human sexuality and eroticism. Laura Linney is superb in her Oscar nominating performance. Her performance captures the true multi-dimensional aspect of her character. Kinsey is an excellent and inspiring film about sex and one that I strongly recommend.

Sunday, May 06, 2007

Loving Sex- Ultimate Massage (1998) - Educational

This excellent video is produced by the Alexander Institute and is part of the Loving Sex Series. It is a very erotic "how to" video about sexual massage. The video has a creative format of two videos in one. One part is instruction in erotic massage techniques. The second part is watching a "real couple" watching the instruction and then practicing the educational techniques. This becomes a very erotic format and also provides some excellent instruction. The DVD is highly stylized and beautifully filmed. The only negative is an introduction from Bernie Zilbergeld of the Alexander Institute that comes off "academic" and therefore detracts from the erotic mood.

Different than other similar videos, this DVD does not attempt to provide a full introduction to massage. The video rather focuses only on erotic techniques and genital massage. The viewer is treated to watching the "watching couple" in playful practice of the erotic massage techniques. These sequences are both humorous and very erotic. The practicing couple is rewarded with very real orgasms.

This video can be purchased at many web sites and directly from the Alexander Institute. http://www.lovingsex.com/index.php The video can also be purchased through one of my favorite web sites http://www.holisticwisdom.com/index.htm . Holistic wisdom, in addition to offering a full line of sex products and videos, provides an excellent resource for information about sex. This is one of two erotic massage videos that I highly recommend. The other video, previously reviewed, is "The Joy of Erotic Massage" produced by the Sinclair Institute http://pages.interlog.com/~bigcat/sinclair/ and can also be purchased at the Holistic wisdom web site.